Dom Testa

Author, Speaker, Broadcaster

JOMO Has Replaced FOMO


By now I’m sure you’re familiar with the term FOMO, or Fear of Missing Out. The explosion of social media has created an entire sub-category of people who mourn the fact they’re not out having as much fun as all those hipster-doodles they see on Facebook or Instagram.

Apparently I’m a big weirdo, because when I see photos from some crowded, crazy event the first thought that goes through my mind is: “I’m so glad I’m not there.”

And what do you know? A new study has just come out that introduces something to replace FOMO. It’s called JOMO.

The Joy of Missing Out.

Yes! Maybe it’s a stage-of-life thing, but I swear the best days of the month are the dot-free weekends. When I pull up my phone calendar and see nary a dot, I get as excited as a 4-year-old at Christmas.

I don’t think it makes me a recluse or a party-pooper. It means I embrace my introversion, and I celebrate the fact I don’t need to share the same experiences with everyone else. The photos and videos splashed all over social media often seem (to me) a desperate cry of “Look! I know how to have fun!”

Okay. I used to be that person, so I get it. But I’ve evolved into a different life form, and to me “missing out” is not something to mourn. It’s something to cherish.

Gimme a quiet dinner with someone interesting, or a good book and a limoncello or tea and I’m beyond happy.

I choose Missing Out. What about you?

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